Abuse is doing two things at once, the mischaracterization of a bad thing as a good thing, or the use of a good thing for evil purposes. It’s doing an attack while doing mental health. It’s doing love in tandem with control and domination, or using kindness to then exercise oppression and hatred.
Without abuse, evil is confronted. It is seen for what it and is addressed simply over time. But abuse is an evil disguised as a good, perpetual and undisciverable and when discovered can be mischaracterized as benevolent.