We determine the salvation of those who abuse us.
Abuser: Oh, hey, can you please let me go heaven? God is merciful. Can you be too?
Righteous man: No.
Abuser: Oh, look, it says be merciful so that you may receive mercy.
Righteous man: Go to hell. Your judgement is based on your lack of mercy. Nice try.
As the man turned back into Paradise having sat on the throne of judgement, God gave him a high five for making such good judgement. “You could have been kinder in your delivery, yet you made the right choice. Just intonate your tone more so they get a taste of the sweetness they’ll never have.” The righteous get judged by God and loved. The abusers don’t get the light of day with God, but face the judgement of those they wronged.